As I was commenting on a fellow bloggers plea about their personality and situation I learned some things great about myself. It’s not that what I found out about myself was great but rather the feeling of learning some thing or things for that matter new about yourself is a great feeling in it itself.
1) The first aspect I learned was that as a INFJ and being a person who thinks about the comfort and ease of others that I when I speak to people I tend to speak to them at the mediums, tone, and level that the person him/her self is speaking to me at. This is the same example I gave the person as well that If someone comes off as blunt I also will reciprocate bluntness in my speech though I am not. And it’s true on the other hand, if someone manifests softness and humbleness then I also will show the same in my mannerisms and speech. I realized that I ,as a individual, find it inconsiderate to burden someone with my distinct personality out of fear that it may inconvenience them or disturb them. So rather than manifesting my unique personality I just mimic what the person is used to at the very least since it is he/she them-self that I am mimicking. Quite complex,deep and complicated right? Yea, thats what INFJ’s are known for. We are people made of different layers upon layers seeking to be understood by our peers.
2) The second thing I learned was that the myers briggs description of the INFJ is true that INFJ’s are selective on their close friends whom they show their “true” selves to. It’s not like we are undercover wolverines by night and human by day (though in my case being a guy with a full beard some may even believe so =p). But rather we are people who feel that not everyone can handle our true self. It’s not that we are on some high pedestal and the rest of world are like peasants (though I fear some arrogant INFJ’s are like that). But its more like we don’t like to feel vulnerable. We only like to open up our true selves to those whom we truly believe are emotional mature enough and open enough to accept our weaknesses as people and yet to still be close, loyal friends. And let me assure you that it doesn’t matter how close you may think you are to an INFJ most likely you are talking to one of their masks they have put up for your or more selfishly their convenience. Complicated right? Yea tell me about it, I live with one 24/7 (myself).
3) The last thing I learned from that small, simple reply was that I as a person really come out due to circumstances. That there is so much self discovery ready for me but I don’t have the proper platform to spit it out and search through it. For example, this blogger had a rhetorical question which triggered a response with in me and had my thoughts running and organizing their self’s. It was through this process that I learned these different things about myself. It is the lack of these scenarios in my life that hinder my own discovery or my lack of noticing them. It takes that question to stir something within me hence spitting something out whether it be verbally to someone one on one or through writing. Only when it is out there “outside the box” so to speak then I as a analyst am able to actually see what has come out, dissect it, and then take benefit.
(That is why in my tradition of Islam our teachers have always mentioned that when speaking to people the closest ears are yours. Hence you speak for your own benefit for you are most in need of those words of righteousness and goodness and hope others may also benefit.)
That is why in many occasions I remember speaking to close friends and giving sort of general advice and reflections about matters and in the conversation itself after hearing what I just said to my friend I will have an intellectual epiphany about my own reflections. As if I didn’t hear them when they were in my head and the deepness or vastness of the words didn’t dawn upon me until my ears heard the wave vibrations from my mouth. Not to say that what I say is even close to great or vast but just what reflections I ponder over after them about God, purpose, and meaning which are the truly amazing matters of life.
That’s basically it. I feel quite accomplished on this day or days knowing that I learned something new about myself. But information isn’t the goal of my tradition but knowledge is. And knowledge always follows action. Hence I hope to use these discovery and more to come in the future to better myself as a proper, ethical, morally upright, Human being.
P.S. Forgive the typos, grammatical errors, and anything else that went wrong. I was just spilling my brains I wasn’t writing for a crisp ,manufactured, error free post.
P.S.S Yes that above picture is of me in one of my secret spots for reflection and contemplation in Sunny California.